Couples Massage – the benefit of learning massage for you and your partner

Couples Massage WorkshopThe Benefits of Couples Massage

There’s something just a bit special about couples massage. Giving your partner a body massage is a treat; and a wonderful way of helping them de-stress after a hard day and showing them you care. There are obvious benefits to the lucky person on the receiving end of the massage of course; but what about the person giving it?

It’s relationship-building

Spending time doing something solely for your partner really does show them that you care. Yes, you could give them a voucher for a massage at the spa but think about how romantic it can be to dim the lights and carry out a massage yourself?

A spa or therapy massage is necessarily clinical – it’s relaxing and enjoyable of course but it’s on a massage couch in a clinic or spa setting with someone who has to keep you at emotional and physical arm’s length to do a professional job. Couples massage is completely different; you’re massaging in your own familiar surroundings, there’s no pressure and you don’t have to leave after 60 minutes. The relaxing benefits of massage from someone that you know well are easy to understand. There’s no awkwardness so he or she can get straight into the feel-good tension busting mood.

It helps to build trust

Trust is vital to any relationship and a massage is a wonderful way to establish that bond.  If you know your partner really well –  you’ll be able to pinpoint the exact moment that they just let themselves go deeply into the massage and relax under your touch completely. At that point, they are completely surrendering and trusting you totally. It’s a powerful emotional connection for both partners.

Building trust leads to stronger feelings of intimacy, which helps to reduce stress. Reducing stress has a cumulative effect; it helps protect against conditions that develop when stress builds up in the body like cardiovascular disease, autoimmune conditions and even IBS.

It improves intimacy

A couple’s massage is a completely different thing than a professional treatment, even if the strokes do the same thing. Of course, that’s how it should be; nobody wants to get too attached to their massage therapist! When you’re having a couples’ massage though it’s a different scenario – you’re doing this for your partner because you care for them and want to be physically close to them. Intimacy isn’t just a physical thing – it’s also about emotional closeness which isn’t something that all relationships have automatically.

Building an intimate connection with someone is good for your overall health; it releases the hormone oxytocin which promotes bonding and also helps to boost your overall wellbeing. You can nurture the intimate connection with your partner just by spending time alone with them, just concentrating on each other. Although massage isn’t the only way to do this of course, it’s a really good way!  Try it – watch as your emotional connection deepens.

Giving a massage makes YOU feel good

You’re so wrapped up in giving that massage and making your partner feel good that you don’t have the time to think about day to day niggles. Those minor irritations that seemed so important get put to one side as you massage away, and the tension seems to melt away from both of you. You can become quite absorbed in the act! There’s no denying that giving a massage can feel as good as getting one as you bond with your lover.

A couples’ massage session gives you peace, quiet and alone time where you can tune in to each other’s needs. The act of making your partner feel good reflects on you and you’ll feel more positive about yourself and your relationship. You might even be able to talk your other half into returning the favour…

Learn how to give a massage to your partner

If you would like to learn how to massage your partner, I run workshops to teach you exactly how.

Contact me today to find out when my next workshop is, or book a private workshop for you and your partner.

Thanks for reading!

 

Body Image and Massage

Body Image and MassageBody image and massage

Almost everybody has something about their body that they don’t like. For many people it’s a minor issue, no big deal. But some people have a major issue with their body image. It affects how they live, restricts what they do, and ultimately their happiness.  Sadly some people’s body image is such an issue that they don’t think anybody else can accept them.

The paradox here is that massage can really help with body image issues. I remember when learning massage we were all ridiculously nervous about taking off our clothes and letting somebody else touch us. It didn’t take long for us to discover that bodies are just bodies and become much more comfortable with our own. We also experienced how good receiving a massage made us feel. Something unexpected happened – when our bodies felt better we felt better about our bodies. By the end of the course we were all very relaxed about our bodies.

I have many women come to see me who are concerned about getting undressed because their legs might be hairy, or they think they have a lot of cellulite, or they are worried if they are overweight, that their skin is dry, they may have psoriasis, or eczema. Here’s the thing.  Therapists don’t notice and they aren’t interested. What we are interested in and totally focussed on is making you feel better.

Here are the options as I see them:

1. Don’t get a massage.  This is the easiest because it involves doing nothing. The risk is low since you are not letting another person see or touch you at all.

The reward is zero. You didn’t get a massage so your body doesn’t feel any better, and you still have the stress you had before.

2. You get a massage. A great massage. And the therapist does nothing to make you feel uncomfortable about your body. In fact, you feel pretty good about your body after the massage and realise your worries were unfounded.

In this option your risk is low. I don’t care how your body looks. That’s none of my business. I just want to help it feel better. Your reward is high. Again your body will feel better from the massage and you can start feeling better about it.

3. You have a Bowen Therapy session instead.
If you have been avoiding massage because you feel uncomfortable about your body, then I have a simple option for you.  Have a Bowen Therapy treatment with me instead.  Bowen is not the same as massage, there is no oil involved and no massage, but it is extremely relaxing and there is no doubt about it’s ability to benefit people with all sorts of issues such as back and neck pain.  The bonus is that it can be done through light clothing.

Our bodies all have their story to tell.  You may be dealing with something that you can’t control, such as a medical condition or an injury or accident. You may be in a lot of pain or are limited in what you can do physically. I don’t make any judgments about you.

I’ve worked on hundreds of people. Each body is interesting and to me every body is beautiful and I’ve yet to come across one that has not benefitted from a treatment whether it is massage or Bowen Therapy.

If you have been avoiding massage because you feel uncomfortable about your body, then I have a simple option for you.  Have a Bowen Therapy treatment with me instead.  Bowen is not the same as massage, there is no oil involved and no massage, but it is extremely relaxing and there is no doubt about it’s ability to benefit people with all sorts of issues such as back and neck pain.  The bonus is that it can be done through light clothing.

It’s my job to help you and your body feel better. That’s it. Together let’s find a way to help you relieve your pain and stress. Don’t let your body image keep you from feeling good.

Thanks for reading.

Sue