A Chat With Virginia Hayden – Hypnotherapist, NLP and EFT Practitioner
I recently had the opportunity to have a chat with the talented and lovely Virginia Hayden who is a Hypnotherapist, NLP and EFT practitioner and coach with clinics in Daventry and Mayfair. Virginia has a wealth of experience in helping people change their life and I was very excited to find out what she does. These changes might be stopping smoking, controlling weight, reducing anxiety or getting rid of a phobia once and for all. What is amazing is that most issues can be resolved quickly and easily. With this in mind, I wanted to know more about what Virginia can offer and asked her some questions.
What made you decide to retrain as a therapist?
After recovering from ME/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and not wanting to return to my former career, I decided to retrain as a therapist. Having been impressed by the therapies which had contributed so much to my recovery, I trained in three core methods: hypnotherapy, NLP and Emotional Freedom Techniques.
If I come to see you, what are the biggest benefits you can offer me?
- Being able to make personal changes quickly, easily and enjoyably
- Being able to let go of problems and focus on solutions
- Being able to think differently, feel differently and behave differently
When you had ME, you must have had some low times. What are 3 things that helped during these times?
- Looking up towards the sky not down at my feet
- Humour – in books, drama and in life
- Contact with those I love and trust
I am curious to know, what are the most frequent issues that people come seeking help with?
People come to me either wanting to solve a problem – whether related to health, emotions or behaviour – or because they want to improve or build on an existing ability. Sometimes, people simply want to be happier. Usually, they want the change to be quick and painless. The methods I use can often help clients to get rapid change. Examples of issues include phobias, fear and anxiety, traumatic memories, physical illness, changing unhelpful habits, stress, weight management. Improvements sought include enhancing performance at work – maybe even as actual performers; being happier in whatever stage of life people may be in.
What are 3 nuggets of advice you would like to share
- Remember that the best thing about the past is that it’s over; learn from it but don’t let it dominate your life .
- Know that you can control your thoughts and your feelings
- Emphasise humour and fun in life and work: “if what you are doing isn’t fun, you’re probably not doing it properly.”
I would like to know what books you would recommend
I would recommend any writing – books or scripts – which makes you laugh, including laughing at yourself. Such a list would be age- and culture-specific but my favourite humorous writers include: P.G.Wodehouse, Nora Ephron, Woody Allen, Douglas Adams, Jennifer Saunders, Gervase Phinn, Therber, Jane Austen, David Nobbs
I would like to know, if you could go back and talk to your self as you were at 20 years of age, what advice would you give your younger self?
I would tell her to learn and enjoy – always.
What brings you joy?
Paying attention to what is around me – people and the rest of the natural world. So, the sky, trees, daffodils, my neighbours, birdsong. Above all, being with my delightful, fascinating grandsons, especially hearing them laugh.
And, finally, if someone wants to contact you because they want to change an aspect of their life, what is the best way of doing so?
You could begin by looking at my website www.changeforthebetter.org.uk – then, if there is anything you would like to ask or if you’d like to discuss getting help for a change you want to make, do e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org. We can arrange a 30 minute talk by phone, skype or face-to-face, free of charge.
Thank you Virginia for your time. If you have made a decision to change your life – your health, your behaviour or your emotional life then Virginia is the person who can help you to make it happen.
This was an interview by Sue Jaycock of Choosewellbeing with Virginia Hayden of Change For The Better.
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